One hard thing for me to realize: just because I went through a paradigm shift doesn't mean that anybody else did, or that they "get it." Something about hitting middle age and breaking a bone a month later made me realize what else was broken and what's right in my life. Thankfully, I grew disgusted enough with the chaos that was reality a few years ago that I realized I needed to take action to put things on a better course. It took time, but it worked. And that action was, I needed to change my attitude. The broken foot gave me pause to consider if I was moving in the right direction, make adjustments, and stay the course. So far, so good. It took some time, but I'm happy with the results. My life is much simpler than it was a few years ago, thanks be to God.
That's probably why my B.S. meter is more sensitive to the popular "I'm so busy!" line. People cling to it like a lifeline as an excuse for why they aren't doing better, or why they aren't changing things. I guess they haven't been knocked off their feet (literally) enough to realize the truth: everybody in young and middle adulthood is busy. That's the nature of life, because we are the ones making the world go around. Being a grown up is hard! But, as Joyce Meyer says, you make your schedule, so if you aren't happy with it, then remake it. We make active decisions about what we commit ourselves to. Sure, there are immovable objects in life (like jobs), but even that can be changed from within if you have the right attitude.
It's not just the busy excuse, though. People complain. A lot. About everything. Complaining seems to be the path to popularity, as I hear people gripe about a great many things that they could change, but don't. I know, you don't have time to do anything about it, even though you find time to talk about it. I don't know why complaining has become popular or why people think it's "cool." The truth is that human beings have a bottom limit to despair. If you truly dislike something, you'll hit a point where you can't stand it anymore and you'll do something - ANYTHING - to make it go away. This is another revelation I learned from psychology that's been verified through several sources over the years. And right along with ignoring words and watching actions, it's something people wish I didn't know.
But I do. I don't get how people get comfortable with excuses. I want to be the best I can be, but it didn't take me long to realize that most people prefer excuses to stay the same to changing. That's why I didn't follow through with becoming a therapist myself, you know - I didn't want to enable people with labels that they'd use to justify staying the same and not really dealing with their problems. So I write and work in professional licensing instead. Because reading is your choice and that's ok, but if you want to work in certain professions, you get that license and you do what's required to keep it active, or you don't work. Period. No excuses, no whining, no being too busy. You want the paycheck, you do it. There's no wimping out or working around here.
I guess you can tell I was raised by a father that worked in the Engineering field, can't you? I can't stand extension cords either, in case you're wondering. I know you aren't, but this is my blog, so there it is.
My point is that it seems that striving for a positive attitude, doing your best, and being honest and authentic are truly the road less traveled. I've heard it said that common sense is so rare these days that it should be classified as a superpower, and perhaps that's true. Making wise decisions and taking responsibility put you on a lonely path. Now many people do it because they're too busy to be bothered, and it's not the way into the "in" crowd. Maybe not, but Robert Frost is right about this road making all of the difference. It's peaceful, and I'm happier than I've been in a long time. I feel good about life and the direction it's heading in. And best of all, it may be a bit lonely, but at least people aren't in my face wanting things and spouting off their opinions all the time. That's life in the limelight, folks. And I'll take quiet living in the periphery over people screaming at me to be "Little Miss Everything" any time!
I know, I just don't "get it." And honestly, I don't want to. That sounds like too much worry over nothing for me. I'm happy being me, and if it isn't broke, then it's stupid to fix it. That too, is subject to opinion. People love to change things to feel like they did something. Geez, now I understand why King Solomon wrote Ecclesiastes. This nonsense people run after is nothing but chasing the wind - and that, too, is madness and folly.
That's all today. Take care, and have a great week.