I'm starting to wonder because it seems like everybody thinks it's ok to vent on me. I even have strangers stop me in public and tell me their problems! Just fuss and squawk about all your problems to Sherri, why don't you? Tell her everything and everybody that pisses you off and rage about the insanity and unfairness of the universe. Actually, this has been a thing going on with me for a couple of years now. It's ironic. I finally wised up and realized that people didn't need unsolicited advice so I quit giving advice - at all. And then all of a sudden, people thought I was a great person to unload their problems on. It went from "you just have a bachelor's degree in psychology and aren't qualified to help" and "mind your own business" to "please help me" and "can't you fix it?"
Um, no. Because here's the bottom line:
1. I didn't go for the advanced degree and make a career out of this because I realized that my skills and abilities lie in other areas;
2. If the problem involved me and I'm doing my best, then you're outta luck because it's not getting better. If I can help, I will. If I'm doing my best and that's still not good enough for you, you're S-O-L and you know where to find the door. Because I've learned that it's not my responsibility to make the entire world happy.
3. If the problem doesn't involve me, then it's not my business and I'm not touching it with a 10 foot pole. Because I've learned that the path to simplicity is to mind my own business, do what I can, and let the rest go to those that have a responsibility/right to deal with it.
That being said, I do understand that sometimes people need to vent and that's alright. I certainly do my fair share, and if you just want an ear then fine. It's when it's the same old stuff that can be fixed but isn't that crosses a line. I simply don't understand why some people will accept bad things in their life and would rather whine and complain than fix it. You know what? The secret to happiness is doing what you can and adjusting to the rest. If you can fix your problems, fix them. If you can't, do what you can to minimize them and adapt and move on. But please, realize that if you continue to complain about the same old things and we see you refute help or solutions because you don't like the way they come to you or the hard work to get it done, well, people are gonna get pissy and write snarky blog posts and smart-alec social media posts about it.
I'm not calling names or making accusations. This post isn't about any one person or thing but rather the fact that it seems that lately, I've been the repository of unloading frustrations and accusations over stress, workloads, and holiday prep and plans to. I'm just saying that we all have a chink in our armor, and people can see it. So please, for the sake of civility, let's please at least act like we're fixing it, can we? It's almost the holidays, for goodness sake. Because the problem isn't the world, or the situation, or the time of year, or even other people. It's peoples' attitudes. Plain and simple.
Nobody's perfect and we can all stand to so some self-improvement. I know I have problems. There's those sassy, blood red poinsettas mocking me everywhere I go and that's something that's gotta be dealt with REAL soon! But that's a blog for another time (and it will be an interesting one - stay tuned).
That's all today. Take care all. I hope the week is good for you. Hang in there for the short work week - relief is on the way with Thanksgiving!
Bye!
Um, no. Because here's the bottom line:
1. I didn't go for the advanced degree and make a career out of this because I realized that my skills and abilities lie in other areas;
2. If the problem involved me and I'm doing my best, then you're outta luck because it's not getting better. If I can help, I will. If I'm doing my best and that's still not good enough for you, you're S-O-L and you know where to find the door. Because I've learned that it's not my responsibility to make the entire world happy.
3. If the problem doesn't involve me, then it's not my business and I'm not touching it with a 10 foot pole. Because I've learned that the path to simplicity is to mind my own business, do what I can, and let the rest go to those that have a responsibility/right to deal with it.
That being said, I do understand that sometimes people need to vent and that's alright. I certainly do my fair share, and if you just want an ear then fine. It's when it's the same old stuff that can be fixed but isn't that crosses a line. I simply don't understand why some people will accept bad things in their life and would rather whine and complain than fix it. You know what? The secret to happiness is doing what you can and adjusting to the rest. If you can fix your problems, fix them. If you can't, do what you can to minimize them and adapt and move on. But please, realize that if you continue to complain about the same old things and we see you refute help or solutions because you don't like the way they come to you or the hard work to get it done, well, people are gonna get pissy and write snarky blog posts and smart-alec social media posts about it.
I'm not calling names or making accusations. This post isn't about any one person or thing but rather the fact that it seems that lately, I've been the repository of unloading frustrations and accusations over stress, workloads, and holiday prep and plans to. I'm just saying that we all have a chink in our armor, and people can see it. So please, for the sake of civility, let's please at least act like we're fixing it, can we? It's almost the holidays, for goodness sake. Because the problem isn't the world, or the situation, or the time of year, or even other people. It's peoples' attitudes. Plain and simple.
Nobody's perfect and we can all stand to so some self-improvement. I know I have problems. There's those sassy, blood red poinsettas mocking me everywhere I go and that's something that's gotta be dealt with REAL soon! But that's a blog for another time (and it will be an interesting one - stay tuned).
That's all today. Take care all. I hope the week is good for you. Hang in there for the short work week - relief is on the way with Thanksgiving!
Bye!
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