Many people think being authentic means being in the spotlight all the time. They believe it means being sassy, rude, or obnoxious. Nothing could be further from the truth because, in fact, these traits are usually masks others wear to hide their true selves rather than to unlock their full potential. Authentic people usually try to avoid the spotlight because they’re too busy attending to their own business, and they don’t want everybody watching their every move. Their glow comes from the joy within, not from drama without. People notice them not because they’re grabbing the spotlight, but because they aren’t, and yet they still seem to exude a confidence and magnetism that draws others in, even if they aren’t trying to. And they’re glad to help you along the path to finding your authenticity if you’re willing to get past your fear ask.
Being your true self isn’t hard. The problem is that we have a remarkable capacity to deceive ourselves into believing what we want to be true. We trick ourselves into believing we’re bound by expectations. Once we break through them, there’s no stopping us, and here’s the secret weapon to doing that:
You can do anything you want.
That’s right, you always have a choice. You’re also responsible for bearing the consequences of your choices. The key to being your best self is to establish a habit of making good choices that align with your morals, priorities, and goals. Here’s an example: Every weekday, I drive by a Burger King on my way home from work. I love burgers, but I also love the fact that I’ve lost 15 pounds, and would like to stay in shape. I can have a burger any time I want, but it’s not in line with my greater goal to keep the weight off. So I make a choice that I can have a burger every now and then, but most of the time, I make different choices because I’d rather keep the weight off than have a burger and fries.
It sounds like a small thing, but such reasoning can build up a new. Start with today, and repeat the process every day until making active choices consistent with your values and goals becomes a habit.
In closing, I’d like to recommend three books that I’ve found inspirational and helpful on my path to become a happier, healthier person: The Secret and The Power, by Rhonda Byrne; and How to Succeed at Being Yourself, by Joyce Meyer. There are many others, but this is a good place to start in the popular (and sometimes overwhelming) subgenre of Self Help books.
Being authentic isn’t rocket science or brain surgery. It’s pretty simple, actually. Just be the best “you” that you can be, and you’re well on your way to breaking forth your light on the world.
That’s all today. Take care, and have a great week/weekend.