Divas. Lord save us, I fight to fly below the radar, and I can’t believe there are people that want to be the center of attention all the time. Really, life has enough problems and aren’t there enough demands on you? Why create more? Hearing that scientists found the center of the universe and that it’s not me was actually a tremendous relief , as it should be to everybody. Nobody’s got time for people scrambling after them and bugging them about every little thing, all the time!
Cliques. What’s wrong with being unique, with letting friendships happen naturally, or with embracing the multiple things that make you who you are and letting them connect you with lots of different people? Maybe it’s the writer in me that’s always wanting to hear new, different stories and finding out about how different people live, but I don’t see why you’d want to narrow the definition of yourself. Cliques and stereotypes just don’t work for me. Now if you’re in one, don’t worry. I’m not the kind of raging non-conformist that bashes the norm and thinks “the man” is out to get us all. I’m just not the type that can bond to certain standards and exclude everything else because frankly life (and the world) is too big to be bound.
Faking on Facebook. Ok, I used that terminology because it’s a clever use of alliteration, and I thought it sounded fun, but this applies to any social media outlet. Folks, we know your life isn’t sunshine and unicorns farting rainbows every day, so when every post is “I’m super, thanks for asking!” we know you’ve got a closet full of skeletons and a cellar full of coffins. We can find fake crap anywhere on the Internet. Please, if you’re doing social media, do it for real. That’s what really sticks out – the people that have good days and bad days and aren’t afraid to share it with a dose of discernment and an ability to find some humor in themselves or some hope for tomorrow. You don’t need to fake it. I once heard some advice to “share your best self,” and this applies to social media as well as to writing endeavors, or presentations, or interviews, or anything else.
Exclusivity. Getting stuck on certain types, brands, or “names” blows my mind, because one size (or way) never really and truly fits all. Brand loyalty is good, and if you have some preferences based on prior experience then that’s one thing. But saying “I’ll only accept this” or “I’ll only buy that” just because you want to flaunt it is poor reasoning. I want to use what works for me, and sometimes it takes a scattershot approach to find it. Really, tell me you notice that I use Dove shampoo and conditioner and White Rain hairspray, or Avon foundation and Almay eyeliner. I bet you didn’t!
Paper fixations. All paper is good for in my life is cleaning bird cages. Otherwise, blah. I don’t understand why people get so hung up on “wanting to hold a book/newspaper/magazine in my hands” when it’s printed material that goes from the eyes to the brain. It says the same thing on a computer, tablet, phone, ereader, or sheet of paper – it’s just a delivery method. Plus, electronic delivery methods are usually good for multiple uses, whereas paper is useful for one thing and a mess otherwise (newspapers do have some alternate uses with caged pets and arts and crafts projects, but how many people actually use it as such?). Does it really matter as long as you get what its saying? And I call b.s. on people that read the paper AND watch the news, because you know you’re double dipping the same information. Busted! Come on, folks. Save shelf space and mess in your house. Make a onetime investment in a digital device that lets you do so much more than just read. Go digital.
Spending big bucks on consumable items. Like exclusivity, I’ve known people that would blow money on things that are gone all too soon just for show, and it doesn’t make sense to me. Why do you want to spend $6 on designer soap that will be washed down the drain? Or buy expensive bottled water when you can get a nice mug and refill it for free? I can understand wanting to splurge and treat yourself or your family every now and then, but do you really want to spend that much money on consumable items? This is money in your wallet we’re talking about. Think it over.
I’ll be the first to say that maybe I just don’t get it. Perhaps there’s a bigger picture or point that I completely miss here, or maybe I’m oversimplifying things. By all means, feel free to chime in with comments if I’m way off on these things, because while some may agree with me, I see plenty of evidence that there are many others that do not.
That’s all today. Take care, and have a great week.