Having a full time job. When I graduated college in 1997, you were considered lowly if you didn't work. Now, between the recession and the retirement of the baby boomers, it seems the mindset has changed to "work is for stupid people." No, actually, it isn't. It's for responsible, independent people that exchange their knowledge, skills, and abilities for financial compensation. That hasn't changed just because work isn't "cool" anymore. Take it from somebody that's worked full time for sixteen and a half years - I'm living proof that work doesn't kill you, and I've built myself as an independent author on top of the full time job. Yes, folks, plus I personally know some people that work not one but two jobs. Talk about an OMG. Seriously, though, there are worse things than working - like having a pile of bills and no income. We all have better things to do than be chained to a workplace so many hours a week, but the security and independence you get from working is worth an alarm clock bleeting in your ear five days a week. Plus, you get some snazzy advantages from working. You know, stupid little things like insurance, retirement, and eligibility to take out a mortgage in your own name.
Not taking exotic vacations every three months. I've threatened to burn my travel bags the day I retire. I'm not a fan of travel and seeing as I'm pushing 39 years old, it doesn't look likely that shipping me off to all parts unknown is going to make me love it any better. In fact, a year ago I was pretty travel weary to the point that I literally snapped from travelling cross country twice in six months, plus taking several local trips. Now I know most people don't agree with me, but really, isn't there a level of stress that goes with living out of bags and navigating a place as alien as Mars to you? Sure, it's nice to get away every now and then. But the every now and then is what keeps it special. If you jet off every 90 days, that's called a lifestyle, not "vacations," and you need to arrange the rest of your life to mesh with it timewise and financially better.
Not having high end designer stuff. I'm sure we all know some people that are really stuck on having the latest and greatest, highest end everything. What I don't get is why people want to spend their money on a name, because in many cases that's exactly what you're doing. Sure, it's nice to have some high end things, but it is possible to go overboard. In many instances nobody really notices and if they do, it's probably not in a nice, flattering way - i.e. you believe they think "oh wow, you're rich and I envy you" when in fact they think "what a showy snob." Most of us have limited finances, so why spend all of your money for show when you really can't control what other people think anyway? Invest in who you are, not what you have. Save up to splurge on what you like best, get what works, be authentic to yourself, and be proud of it.
Who likes, friends, and drops them on social media. I don't even know how people can keep up with that, but I've seen plenty of drama over this person won't accept my friend request or that person dropped me. How rude! Seriously, if there's one thing I've learned, it's that people are going to be people, whether they do it in your face or online. Change your perspective and be thankful for the people that are still around. And if it bothers you that much, pull the plug. Computers shut off and apps can be closed, you know. Slamming the door online may not be as dramatic online as it is in person, but it's a whole lot easier to do.
Gossip. OMG, what a waste of time, energy, and relationships. As I said above, people are gonna be people, so let them be who they are and get a hobby, for gosh sakes. Everything that flies through your head doesn't need to fly out of your mouth, and the unflattering truth is that most people don't really care what you think about this or that anyway, so why waste your time? Read an book or better yet, write one since so many people say they'd like to do it. As a writer I can tell you that if you like stories, then creating your own characters and worlds is more interesting than reality about 99.9% of the time anyway.
That is true. Fiction is often more amusing than reality. And with this all being said, I think I'll go revise Obsidian now.
That's all today. Take care and have a great week.