As we enter the 2013 holiday season, I’d like to urge you to be aware of a few things:

1.  Drive carefully. In January, I heard a highway patrolman say that the State of South Carolina averaged 2 fatal car accidents between Thanksgiving 2012 and New Year’s Day 2013. “That was two families we had to call every day to tell them their loved ones were never coming home. It was awful,” he said. I wish you could have heard his voice, because it would have gotten the message through to you loud and clear. When you drive this holiday season, lay aside all distractions and fully focus on operating your vehicle. The text, call, clock, and to-do list can wait. Life isn’t a video game. Dead is dead forever. So please, drive carefully. 

2.  Be patient, and plan more time for everything. Everybody crawls out of their hole, gets in the car, and goes this time of year. It’s more traffic, more crowds, more lines, and more waits. What took 10 minutes in October can very likely take 30 minutes or longer now. You need a pound of patience to get through the holiday rush, and unfortunately most of us don’t have that much. So plan ahead, be practical, and understand that things are going to take longer to get done for the next six weeks. 

3.  With that being said, I also urge you to be mindful of deadlines. Strange but true: the world is still operating and there’s still plenty to be done in the coming weeks. Don’t let deadlines sneak up on you. If you’re have a goal to get something done before the end of the year, get started (you really should have started in early November) and look for deadlines. Remember that this is peak season for many businesses as they close out for the calendar year – it’s not limited to retail. Sit down with your calendar today to make your goals, figure out deadlines, and find out how to get things done without the last minute OMG attacking you right when you don’t need it most. 

4.   Be mindful of your finances and get organized. With so many Christmas presents to buy, it’s easy to lose track of what you’ve bought, how much you’ve spent, and what you’ve missed. After you figure out the deadlines in #3 above, make another list of people you need to buy presents for and take an inventory of what you need to put Christmas on this year. Save that list in your smartphone and update it daily if you must. There are lots of ploys and traps to part you from your money this time of year, so be smart and be aware. Do you really need that giggling penguin with its foot smooshed in a cupcake? Do you really want it? If you think about it a little longer, I’ll bet you’ll actually find it quite disturbing. 

5.  Watch what you eat. By this, I mean that goodies are everywhere. Before you eat something, ask yourself if you’re really hungry. It’s easy to mindlessly munch (especially if you work in an office), and then hit a midday slump or reach for the TUMS without realizing you did your own self in. So be mindful of your noshing in the days ahead.  

6.  Take some breaks. The holidays can be a fun time of year, but it’s easy to get “Christmas overload.” I know you want to enjoy the season and all the fun that you only get once a year, but turning off the holiday carols for a day, foregoing a holiday movie in lieu of a sci-fi movie, or leaving one room undecorated doesn’t make you a Grinch. It makes you a well balanced human being. 

7.    Plan some time to yourself. It’s also easy to get social overload with the constant bombardment of celebrating with family and friends. Yes, it’s good to see everybody, but you also need some time to yourself to rest and restore your balance, and you need to take care of yourself. Again, skipping an event here or a party there doesn’t make you a Grinch. It makes you a savvy entrepreneur of your time. Face it; nobody can do it all during the holiday season. Pick what you like best and do that. The holidays will always come back around, and you can catch a few things you missed next year. 

8.   Realize that how others act is a 100% reflection on them and a 0% reflection on your or anybody else. We naturally deal with more people this time of year, and as such the emotions will flare up. Human beings have a complex yet not really sophisticated array of defense mechanisms to deflect the responsibility of their behavior to others, but the wise among us realize these tricks and know that each is responsible for himself alone. You simply can’t take everything people say or do to heart. I wrote an entire blog entry on this last holiday season called “Don’t Flinch,” and that’s exactly what I remind you to do again. People will certainly, get emotional and have fits of their some variety at some point in the coming weeks. Say no to the drama. Don’t cave into that. As my brother once told me, you don’t have to take other peoples’ problems just because they want you to, and you shouldn’t. Let them keep that crap. Take the higher ground. Stand firm in what you know is right. And Godsake, don’t flinch.  

9.    Be aware of what’s going on around you. It’s easy to get sucked into our own little world with such long to-do lists this time of year. It’s also dangerous. Diversion and inattentiveness are why so many people get attacked and robbed this time of hear. Be aware of your surrounds and the people around you, and take proper precautions to secure yourself and your stuff. It really isn’t as hard as it seems. Just pay attention.

10.  Have fun. I think this is the biggest thing we forget. We keep saying “as soon as I get this done, I’ll relax,” or “as soon as that event/date/get-together is here, I’ll be ok.” Don’t defer your joy. There are things to enjoy in every day, holiday related or not. Find them. Enjoy them. Give thanks for all the blessings you have. And be grateful that we have a fun holiday season in these dark days of approaching winter, because it really gives light to a time of year that would be blah, boring, and depressing otherwise. 

That’s all today. I wish all of you a safe and Happy Thanksgiving and a wonderful weekend. 

Bye!

When I was driving in to work on Friday, the radio announcer was talking about a post on social media that he sees every year around this time. The post is a simple question: What if the only things you had today were the things you were thankful for yesterday?

It's a daunting question, and one that's especially timely to think about now, as we enter the holiday season. The two words I hear way too much every year in November - December (and yes, it's already started) are "I want." People are very vocal about their desires, especially at this time of year. And it's ironic, because Thanksgiving is a holiday that's supposed to be about showing thanks for our blessings, and Christmas is supposed to be about giving thanks for our salvation. Supposed being the actual verb in those phrases, because if every conversation starts with "I want" or "I wish," then the focus isn't on being grateful for what you have. It's everywhere but where it's supposed to be. Our scramble to create "the perfect holiday" puts our focus on performance and off of prayer, meditation, and being grateful for the life we live every day.

Yes, I will agree that this is a season of celebration, and we're certainly entitled to enjoying it. But isn't it a mistake to limit that to a time of year, or conditions being met, or of getting what we want? Shouldn't we celebrate our blessings every day? The Bible says not to despise the day of small things, but I'll bet that when the end of it all rolls around, we'll discover that's where the true magic and joy of our lives were at. Yes, the big things matter greatly, but there's just as much joy in the small stuff. Some of my happiest memories are days spent at home with Rick and the birds, or lunch out with family and friends, conversations with co-workers on a slow afternoon, lunches out and dinners in, reading a book, or watching a movie or TV show I enjoy. If I limited my joy to big events and book releases, then I'd be binding myself indeed, and I don't want to do that. I want to enjoy life everyday, not just during certain times and seasons. 

I often hear people say they wish Christmas lasted all year, but perhaps it's Thanksgiving that should be a year-round, everyday event. And perhaps this Thanksgiving week is a great time to shift our paradigm and give some thought not to the "I want" list, but to the "thank God I have ..." list. Try it. You might find it's longer than you imagined. 

That's all today. I hope you have an excellent week. 

Bye! 

Hello world, it’s good to see you again. It’s been a crazy week for me, as I anticipated, but by the grace of God, I’m making it. Thankfully, it seems that some mountains are behind me. No doubt, there will be more mountains to move in the future. That’s the nature of life. 

First, Splinter was finally released over the weekend, and that was a huge relief. Splinter has been a three and a half year journey full of obstacles and fights unlike any I’ve ever seen in writing and publishing a novel. Not only was it the hardest project I’ve worked on to date, but it seems that everything that could go wrong did throughout the entire process. It led me to question whether this was a right course of action many times, but forging ahead seemed to be the answer at every challenge, and now it’s paid off. I’ve fought two arm injuries, multiple illnesses, family issues, work issues, email and technology issues, even what many would refer to as “spiritual warfare” issues – you name it, I faced it. Thanks be to God, it’s published. I can’t describe the tremendous relief I feel now that the process is complete. I did as much publicity and promotion before the release as I could, but there was still a lot that had to wait until it was published and available for sale, and I’ve been busy taking care of those things this week. It’s hard work; but I’m doing it with joy to finally have it published. 

Don’t forget that I’m extending 2 special offers to readers to celebrate this release through the month of November. Quarantine is being offered for free, and Move is being offered for 50% off (that’s $1.50) through midnight on November 30th. You will need to enter Coupon Code BP43X for Quarantine, and Coupon Code QN64T for Move.  I also have a prequel short story posted titled “Fractured” on ReadWave, if you want a sneak peek at it. It’s only 800 words, and you can read it in less than 5 minutes.

Second, I had a 2 day meeting on Monday and Tuesday. Plus, they completed renovations in our office area over the weekend, so my office was a disaster until I got out of the meeting and had a chance to unpack (I’m not mentioning the 2 day pile of work waiting on me on top of that). Again, thanks be to God, we made it through that too. Like Splinter, it wasn’t without obstacles. Everything that could go wrong did on Monday, and I was so exhausted by the time that I got home that I literally couldn’t think straight. Tuesday went better, and I’ve made good progress since then. Thankfully, all of our staff vacancies are filled now, so things are shifting back to their proper order. Let’s pray it sticks this time. I’ve petitioned some prayer power in this area, and it seems to be working. 

Third, Ollie is still struggling with that nerve inflammation in his leg. Rick and I are concerned, but it seems that the final answer on that is to wait it out, because there’s no quick fix or cure for this. The vet said it’s a result of the kidney infection he had last month, and nerve inflammation takes a long time to go down. He’s afraid to medicate Ollie any more because he’s so small, and it might have a detrimental effect. I feel so sorry for the little fellow. It’s hard because he has good days and bad days, and with this shifting weather (hot, cold, rain, hot again, cold again, windy, rain again), it’s not helping his healing, and we want to help him. We’ve tried everything we can, and being patient is hard when you can tell the little fellow is in pain. Ollie is still eating well, and playing as best as he can (although not as much as he used to since his foot is hurt). 

I guess one thing that raised alarms for me is that my brother found one of his cats, Macy, dead yesterday morning. Macy had an upper respiratory infection a couple of months ago, but it cleared up and there was no indication that anything was wrong. I feel bad for Stephen and Nicole, because when you don’t have kids, your worst fears are something happening to your parents, your siblings, or your pets. I still remember how awful it was to lose the parakeets I had before my current “flock,” and that was in 1996. You don’t forget that. I have to admit that, given Ollie’s situation, this bothered me a lot. People keep assuring me that Ollie will recover because he’s been fully diagnosed for all possibilities, but things like this tend to push your “freak out” buttons. Stephen and Nicole thought Macy was fine, and she woke up dead yesterday (not putting it gracefully, I know). I feel bad for them, and I’m trying to pray away my own anxieties over Ollie now. 

Fourth, our church finally has a new pastor under consideration. We’re voting on extending a call Sunday. All we have is basic information on them. No name – I guess they don’t want the younger members of the congregations to Google him and to vote based solely on qualifications. So there’s another transition stage coming to a close, we hope. It’s been over a year and a half since our pastor and associate pastor left, so this has been a longer transition than we expected. It seems that’s the name of the game these days – transitions lasting longer than usual. Problems, obstacles, etc etc etc. 

I’m optimistic that things will settle down into a good place. So positive, in fact, that I rejoined the Information Technology Committee again. I liked being more involved with the church, and I’ve missed not being on a committee this year. Now seems like a good time since my job is settling back to normal, Splinter is published, and we have a new pastor coming in that doesn’t have any preconceived notions or expectations of me or Rick. I’m not officially back “on” the committee until January, but that’s ok. It will be good to be back, and I believe the IT committee is of a magnitude that will fit into my life. I guess rejoining that committee would be a fifth thing that’s happened this week. 

Sixth, Dad’s birthday is tomorrow! I hope he has a great day. We’re doing an “official” celebration on Thanksgiving since he and Mom are planning a day trip to Charleston tomorrow, but I did see them for lunch today and gave him his presents.  It’s supposed to be a nice day tomorrow, and I hope they enjoy it. Happy birthday, Dad!

So yes, it’s been a crazy-busy week, but all for good because things are more or less settling and I’m seeing the fruits of my labors. I pray that the tide is turning. (Again, I’ve petitioned additional prayer power on this and it thankfully seems to be working so far). The relief I’ve felt over the progress of this week’s hard work has actually had me feeling almost human again, for the first time in nearly a year. I won’t lie – these past 12 months have been tough. Not as tough as the major transitions of 2010, but still tough and challenging in ways that tested and stretched me beyond what I believed to be my own capacity. It seemed awfully soon to have to face it too, after just settling in from so much before. But again, by the grace of God, I’m still standing. We all are. And that alone shows His hand on us to help and guide everybody affected by all of this transition and change this past year. We survived. We’re moving forward. We’re thriving. Thanks be to God. 

Yes, I’m relieved. More relieved that I have been in a long time. As I say in the closing line of Splinter, it’s a good day to be alive. 

That’s all today. Have a Happy Friday tomorrow and a great weekend. 

Bye!

I had a good surprise last night - Splinter was published through Whiskey Creek Press yesterday! I'm so happy! Three and a half years in the making, and it's finally here! Hooray!

It looks like Splinter is up at Whiskey Creek Press and on Amazon now. Barnes & Noble is typically a bit slower, but hopefully it will be posted there soon.

This was a nice surprise. Much better than the one I had Thursday when my car started smoking when I got back from lunch! Those are the kinds of surprises I usually get. When people say "I have a surprise for you," my stomach knots up because it's usually good for them and bad for me. Recent surprises that I've been the recipient of are a wasp sting that reacted VERY BIG, two sick birds, Rick's obscure infection, catching every darn virus that goes around, my car smoking on the way back from my lunch break, break downs, melt downs, and the "I'm outta here" speeches that I've heard way too many of in the past year. So you can see why I'm skeptical of surprises, and so shocked when a good one comes my way. 

Anyway, go pick up your copy, and if you like it please leave a review on  Amazon or Goodreads. 

Thanks for supporting my writing, and I hope all of you have a great week. 

Bye! 

Hi all; I thought I'd give you a general update on what's happening in my corner of the world.

First, Splinter is coming out next week! I'm excited, of course, and will update you with buy links for the book as soon as they're available. It's only going to be available in ebook format. Lots of people ask me why, and the reason is that I have to pay to make it available in paperback, and frankly I never recup the costs of it. Almost all of my books sales are ebooks and the paperbacks just don't move, so I invest that money in promotion of the electronic version instead. If you'd like a sneak peek at Splinter, you can check out the short story I posted on ReadWave yesterday titled "Fractured". It's told from the point of view of Amelia Eaton, the doctor on Jovan I and Leigh Lybrand's best friend, and it gives a great setup to the novel because it hints at something important that happens about 18 months before Splinter opens. Go check it out - the story is only 800 words, and you can read it in less than 5 minutes.

If you were on social media Thursday, then you know my car broke down when I went out to lunch that day. What a story! I actually went out to pick up a Christmas gift I ordered for Rick. They tried to deliver it to the house, but unbeknownst to me, they sent it with a signature required, so when it arrived Wednesday and I wasn't there, they left a nice little card in the mailbox. So I already had to explain to Rick why the post office was trying to deliver a parcel to me, because he gets home before I do. I had to go to the post office Thursday to pick it up, or they were going to return it to the sender, which I didn't want, of course. I made it all the way to the post office (I didn't realize how far out in the boondocks the post office serving our zip code was!) and the car started smoking when I pulled back in the parking lot at work. I went in to tell my co-workers what was happening, and took it straight to a mechanic that set up shop about 2/10 of a mile from my house. The car started overheating on that ride, and I had to stop twice to rest the engine before it shut off. (Thank goodness my office is only about 3 miles from home). But thanks be to God, I made it. I walked home carrying my purse, work bag, and Rick's gift (which was bigger than I expected, but thank goodness not heavy). And also thankfully, nobody saw me walking  home, as it's a dirt road with little traffic from my house to that mechanic. It turns out that a valve in my radiator had a hole in it, and all of the antifreeze leaked out. They fixed it the same day, which was amazing, and I picked it up before work yesterday (they wanted it to sit overnight to make sure it didn't leak any more antifreeze). The car's doing fine now, but it relieved me of $281. To replace a $8 part, I might add.

Speaking of Rick, he did recover from the tissue infection in his cheek. It was a painful ordeal, and we're glad it's over. We still aren't sure how he got it. I surmise it has something to do with working in a middle school and handling all of those student and teacher iPads. People can be pretty nasty sometimes. We actually had a good weekend last weekend, because he felt better and we had a chance to have a "date day" for the first time in about a month. We went to the gun show, out to lunch, and to see Thor: The Dark World. We enjoyed it and it was great to have a chance to go out and do something fun together. But now he's down again, because he got a flu shot yesterday, and it has him feeling run down today. He hasn't had a flu shot in a few years, and it seems to have knocked him out this time. He can't seem to win. This should pass by tomorrow or Monday according to the paperwork they gave him.

Ollie is over his kidney infection, but it left him with nerve inflammation in his leg. Some days are better than others. I've bugged the vet about it several time and even took Ollie back because of it. The vet said it will get better in time, but inflammation takes a while to go down, and little Ollie seems to be a slow healer. Some days are better than others. I hate it because I can tell the leg is really bothering him sometimes. But he still sings, and plays, and he's eating very well. The vet said to try to get him to work that leg - a kind of "physical therapy" - and we're trying but again, some days are better than others. We all know that the changing weather isn't helping matters either, because I can tell it bugs him more when it's cold. Poor little fellow.

Christmas shopping is 80% done. I  know I won't finish before Thanksgiving, but that's okay because I think I can finish in early December with this rate of progress. I have to, because the workload at my job peaks in December. Along with a December 16th exam deadline, we also have everybody wanting to get licensed before the end of the year so they can start on projects at the beginning of the new year. It's insanity, and I've learned that I have to plan ahead to handle "the crush" if I want to keep from drowning. It can get overwhelming, between a heavy workload and your family and social life picking up for the holidays. Why every place I've worked seems to hit a "crunch time" between Thanksgiving and Christmas is beyond me - I guess it must be a trend no matter where you work. Things just get more active all around during the holidays. But thank God, I hope that planning ahead will keep me sane. I was so stressed and overwhelmed last holiday season that I was miserable and couldn't enjoy the holidays even when I was finally away from all the madness. I just couldn't seem to "wind down" from everything pounding on me, and I don't ever want to be in that place again. I'll err on the side of wisdom and take people snickering and calling me "anal" if it means I can keep an even keel once it all busts loose in a few weeks and actually be able to enjoy the season like we're supposed to.

And that reminds me to give you a follow up that I should have done a while ago. I know I said in July that I was having problems with being angry all the time and at so many people and situations because of the crazy amount of change since last  December. I wanted to let you know that I am feeling better and I think I'm making progress in this area. It's not easy to deal with anger. Of course, you have every right to be angry when people are making decisions that you have to pay the price for, but that doesn't give you justification to stay angry. That's putting yourself in a prison and, as I said in July, that's not the kind of person I want to be. I see now that sometimes people just make bad decisions, and whatever consequences you suffer for it, they suffer much more because they're in the middle of it. Periphery problems, as I was struggling with at the time, pass much faster than being in the dead center of the chaos. But another issue is that I also realize that I'm not the only one that was overwhelmed. Many people were, and some still are, but everybody is trying to get settled in a better place. I see intent to make progress and it's paid off in some ways already, so I'm content to hang in there and keep things moving in a right direction. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things we're called to do, but it's possible through prayer. Moving on can be hard too, but again it's possible if you're willing to learn from the past and gain wisdom from all that you experience. I have heard that  more change may be on the way for me in the new year, and that's okay as well. I see some benefits to it and while I realize that a learning curve and adjustments might be on the horizon (again), I prayed over it and feel this is for ultimate good for me and many others. Nothing is definite, but I'll pass along more if and when it comes to pass.

I think the greatest thing I've come to learn over these past months as I worked through the anger issue is that I had an error in my own perception. I was in a rut for so many years at my old workplace, that I thought the "normal" state of being was just that - being in a groove. But that's not right. I've come to see that the constant change and state of flux I've seen over the past 3 years is actually the norm, and that 6 year rut was the exception. I've been working so long and hard to "get settled down," and now I realize that the proper state of life is actually change and constant motion. "Normal" is constant work and striving toward something better, to making the next steps and to moving ahead, not settling in a groove of the "same old same old" that slowly kills your soul. The happiness I thought I had in those days was nothing more than comfort of routine and fear of change, and I really had to be jolted to get out of that deceptive trap. Although I wouldn't relive that adjustment phase again for any amount of money or reward, I will say that I'm glad it happened, because my life is in a much better place, and the happiness I have now is based not on "comfort," but on faith and gratitude for a life that I finally realize is filled to overflowing with blessings. I had it backwards, and that's been part of my anger and adjustment problems to this big life change since 2010. That was a major revelation to me, and it helped me to start making steps in a positive direction in my own attitude and expectations of life.

So am I still going through with the big life evaluation and purge I planned for January 1? It doesn't look like I need to. I see where things fit now, and I also see the progress and change on the horizon that I was  hoping for.

Well, I think that's quite enough for one day. I hope you're all doing well. Take care, and have a great weekend.

Bye!

There’s a line in the recently released trailer for Captain America – The Winter Soldier that interested me. It’s where Agent Fury tells Captain America “S.H.I.E.L.D. sees the world as it is; not as we want it to be.” That statement stuck in my head, but it wasn’t until the past couple of days that I realized why: most people don’t do this. They act and treat others in a manner that reflects how they’d like for the world to be; not in the way that people actually behave. We base a lot on theory and not on reality, and it’s a problem that I’ve been butting my head against for several months in a couple of places in my life. In a way, it’s sad when a line from a movie based on a comic book character resonates in your personal life. But it did. 

And why is this? I know what conclusion you’re jumping to – I’m saying people are selfish. Well, in a way we all are, and there’s no question of that in some people. Especially now that the holidays are coming and we’re entering the “gimme” season. No, not the “giving” as we popularly put it. The magical holiday season are when people start making their demands known – loudly, frequently, and with a bold determination to mow you over with their will no matter what so they can make “the perfect holiday.” The only problem is that “perfect” is an operational definition – as in, there’s not one, singular definition of it, and it depends on your perception. 

I think the core problem here, beyond even selfishness and stubbornness, is a perceptual problem. We all see the world differently, and we have our own way of processing and perceiving things. That we are all unique individuals is a fact that most people don’t have a problem with. The problem comes in comprehending that other people see things in a way that we can’t relate to and sometimes might not even understand. This is something I run across a lot. I’ll present something to people, and they’ll see things and pull interpretations out of it that never crossed my mind. That, I believe, is where the phrase “pulled it out of their butt” came from. You look at it and think how on earth did they come up with that out of this?  You can’t see anything that even resembles it. But they can, and because of those perceptual differences, you can’t find a way to communicate. 

Unfortunately, we like the way we see the world. We’re comfortable with it, and we’re willing to expend a great deal of time and energy trying to drag others in our world, not realizing that the simpler solution is to try to find their world and build a bridge between the two. This is called compromise. It’s a dirty word to most people. And we’d all get along better if we tried it a bit more frequently. But we don’t because it’s hard. Bridge building isn’t easy. In the physical world, it takes a licensed engineer with very special skills to do that, and I think that most people believe that’s true emotionally as well. It may seem like it. In my experience, the two hardest things in the world to do are to change how you think, and to try to understand what somebody else is thinking. It can be done, but it requires a tremendous amount of effort and attention to your own thinking and behavior patterns, and that level of self scrutiny is uncomfortable for most of us. 

Lately, I’ve had several instances where people have asked me to speak with a person that they’re having difficulty communicating with. They tried to explain it every way they can, to no avail. In every instance, I asked the question they didn’t think to ask: why do you think that? Instead of trying to jerk them into my world, I asked them where they were coming from. It’s not 100%, but more often than not, you find that the problems aren’t as big as they appeared. 

You can’t remake the world, folks. It is what it is, whether we like it or not.  What you can do is exchange the mirror you see the world through for a window. Escape the tunnel of your own vision and look to the periphery. Look outside and see what lies beyond your own image of the world. Then you can get a better view of reality, and that can be the difference between moving mountains and wandering in the wilderness.

That’s all today. Take care and have a good end of the week. 

Bye!  
 

Here's an easy math question: if your husband decides to finally test shoot his shotgun in the woods, how many neighbors freak out? It seems the answer is all of them, and they fill in the gaps more creatively than I can as a writer. Within a few minutes, Mom called and said she thought my in-laws had been shot.

Call Dateline everybody. Now we know the answer to an age old riddle: if you fire a gun in the woods, EVERYBODY hears it.

I have to admit that we tend to get into some shenanagins, not realizing that what's completely normal to us isn't normal to everybody else. And sometimes, it can be hard to figure where that line is between "not a far stretch" and strange looks. It's like the ladies from church that Mom and I ran into at the Craft Show Friday - they were surprised I actually took a day off to do something fun. It seems I have a reputation for being a workaholic. Which isn't true - I don't work nearly as many hours as Dad did before he went part time, or that others do, but I guess it depends on your perspective. Then again, I don't consider my writing "work" and I suppose they do, so there you have that thin line.

Then there's the time I didn't realize why the Avon lady was looking at me funny until she said "there's a bird on your shoulder." Oops! I meant to put Chloe back in her cage before I answered the door, but I'm so used to having her on my shoulder here at home that I just answered the doorbell without a thought to how wacky it looks to answer a door with a parrot on your shoulder. I've surprised a few UPS and pizza delivery people that way, too. Hey, my birds expect service, folks. And they're watching you! I do try to be more mindful of that, but we don't have many things delivered, so that's one that frequently falls through the cracks.

And yet, we went to see Thor: The Dark World yesterday, and there were just as many women in that theater as there were men. All ages of them, too, and they seemed pretty up to date on what was happening in the Marvel universe.  Until now,I had a hard time finding other women interested in sci-fi and fantasy, but it seems this rise of interest in urban fantasy is spreading to a larger audience. It's one example of how the definition of "normal" can change with time and trends - and why you shouldn't worry too much about it anyway.

I suppose we're all unique in our own ways, and there are some times when it's more apparent than others. It just seems that, at least with me, those apparent times happen with more frequency than it does with most others. Or maybe I'm "unique" in ways that are more apparent. You be the judge.

That's all today. Take care and have a good week.

Bye!

It may surprise some of you to know that I do have interests in the world outside of The Bible, books, and birds. Yes, it’s true that those are my main interests, but there are other things I like, such as:

Arts and Crafts. I do counted cross-stitching from time to time, and I enjoy arts and crafts projects. The problem is that they’re usually so time consuming that I rarely have an opportunity to engage in this interest. I limit my stitching projects to small patterns, there are few good craft shows in our area (plenty of blah ones but as for big and really good – maybe 2 or 3 a year), and it seems the craft stores around here are closing shop a lot. Arts and crafts are definitely on my “when I retire I’d like to do that more” list. 

Roses. I’d have an entire rose garden in my backyard if I could maintain it but alas, I limit myself to 4 bushes planted against the house. I love roses and enjoy growing them. In fact, I had to winterize them last weekend, and it was a little sad for me. Oh well. They need the winter dormancy to rest and growing season will come again, as it always does. And then I’ll enjoy those red, pink, purple and yellow blossoms again.

Firearms. I know that’s the exact opposite of arts and crafts and roses. It started when we took over my father-in-law’s guns when he was diagnosed with dementia. Rick and I decided that if we were having them in our home, then we wanted to know how to use and store them properly. I was also working on Blurry at the time, so this knowledge worked well with being a mystery writer. Plus, going to the range is good to improve hand-eye coordination. So see, it’s not all about “personal protection” and “home defense.” Those are good reasons, but I’m naturally a clumsy oaf, and handling firearms helps me to focus, and be less of the clumsy oaf that I naturally am.

Earth Sciences. I took a Geology course my senior year in college to complete my science requirements, and was surprised to find that I loved it! So much of the science classes I took focused on biology, and the earth sciences captivated me. That’s why I post stories from Discovery News a lot – the Earth itself is fascinating. It’s no mistake that my protagonist for Splinter is a geophysicist. 

Hiking. I love to hike, especially in the mountains and in parks. It’s nice to escape the noise of everyday life to retreat to the quiet and beauty of nature. I think this is why I liked The Grand Canyon so much – no matter how many tourists were around chattering at the lookout points, there was a vastness that swallowed up the noise and sucked it into the quiet beauty of God’s creation. Like arts and crafts, I don’t have near enough time in my busy, full life for this, but I enjoy it a lot when I do. 

See, I do have a wider variety of interests. So if you aren’t interested in talking about faith, writing, books, or birds, well, here are 5 other things that interest me. 

That’s all today. Take care. 

Bye!


 

So, how many of you are participating in National Novel Writing Month? Alas, I am not this year. In fact, I’ve only participated once, in November 2010 to write Splinter, but it was a great experience. God willing, I’d like to participate again someday.

I do wish all of you participating the best of luck in this adventure, and have a few tips for getting through easier – if that’s possible. I know you don’t have much time to be torn from your work in progress, so I’ll keep these tips brief:

 Back up your work, frequently. Hit save often and back up your work to an external storage device at least once a day. 

Maintain your computer. Charge your battery and run a virus scan often to keep it up and running. 

Maintain yourself. It’s easy to get lost in your work and forget basic things, like eating, sleeping, and going to the bathroom. Don’t. Your body has ways of reminding you to take care of it. Heed them. 

Plan for breaks. You can’t write every minute of every day. Plan to take time out to spend with people, to do things you enjoy, take a walk to enjoy the crisp fall weather, or to just rest and relax. Catch up on the news so you don’t get completely “out of it” this month. You’ll be more productive when you return to writing if you take out an hour here or a day there to have a life. 

Roll with it. Don’t stop to edit, and don’t get thrown if you find yourself writing something that you didn’t expect. I believe this is normal, in fact. Just roll with it and keep writing until you get the draft done. You can go back to do further research, rewrite, and edit later. This isn’t about writing a perfect draft – it’s about writing a rough draft that you can work with more later. 

If you get stuck, make a jump. If you hit a point where you aren’t sure of what to do next, skip to the next point where you have an idea. The “middle sag” is a common problem. If you have the beginning and know how you want it to end, just open another Word document and start writing the final chapters. I’ve done this many times, and inevitably I figure out a way to bridge the gap between where I got stuck and where I want to go in a day or two. Then you can copy and paste everything together into a single document that you edit for consistency later. 

Take shortcuts and simplify where you can. Crock pots are a working woman’s best friend to get meals on the table with little fuss and mess. Clorox wipes are miracles for cleaning kitchens and bathrooms quickly, and they disinfect too. Feather dusters or Swiffer dusters and fantastic for knocking dust off furniture, Swiffer mops are a quick and easy way to clean floors, and there’s no substitute for a lightweight vacuum to tidy up your carpet. Simply putting things in their proper place and emptying trash cans works wonders for making a place look clean and tidy. Skip “dry clean only” clothes this month in lieu of things that are machine washable. And do you really need to do your nails every week, especially if the polish is going to chip from typing all the time? Save the deep cleaning, dressing up, and fancy meals for December, when you have time to fuss over stuff. 

Don’t waste time. Limit your time on the Internet or behind the TV. Those are the biggest time sucks of all. Let one social media update a day suffice and log off. Preferably, one to let us know about your progress for today.

And with that being said, get back to writing. You have a book to write!

Good luck to everybody participating in National Novel Writing Month. I wish you fun and success in this wonderful writing journey. 

That’s all today. More later. 

Bye!

I noticed that Facebook is having their annual "30 Days of Thankfulness" this month. That's a little sad. If you are truly grateful for your blessings, you shouldn't need a reminder to be grateful for them. You should thank God every day for them, and express that gratitude all the time. It's like Valentines Day - if you love someone, you should show it through all that you do. We should appreciate and value our relationships daily, not just one day a year.

I don't know. Maybe we just need the holiday to give ourselves a reason to take time out from day to day life to celebrate it in a big way. But unfortunately, I do believe there are too many people that need the holidays as reminders to not take what they have for granted.

Well, whatever works.

As for me, I know I've found a new appreciation for the blessings in my life after helping Rick through his illness these past few days. I have a life of abundance that's full of love,  blessings, and glory that the Lord has generously bestowed on me. My life is truly filled to overflowing, and although I give thanks for it each day, you are reminded of the small things that give light to your days through having the routine broken up. The ability to create and keep a happy home, offer my talents and abilities through fruitful work, share my inspiration through my writing, and grow in my faith with my church family are cornerstones of my life that I don't often appreciate enough until I have a shakeup like the last few days to interrupt them. I'm just so used to them being there all the time, but these past few days, I've had to take comfort in knowing that, although I couldn't be there or attend to them as I usually do, they would remain and welcome me back when things settled.

I'm happy to report that Rick is recovering. He seems to be through the worst of it and is getting his strength back. Ollie (our parakeet) is also healing - that anti-inflammatory shot the vet gave him Friday seems to be doing the trick to get him back to 100%, and I'm relieved to know his infection is healed. I'm also over my infection - it was rather a stubborn one, but it's gone now.

So I'll return to work tomorrow, grateful to be able to return to my labors. Splinter will be out any day now. I have a long weekend coming up, where I'll enjoy the annual Christmas Craftsman's Classic Craft Show with Mom on Friday, then a long weekend for Veteran's Day. What will we do? There are lots of choices. There's the gun show next weekend, and Thor - The Dark World also comes out. It looks like next weekend is going to be full of fun for me, which is just what I need! Life has been way too much problem solving and troubleshooting lately, and I pray that is passing and I'll be able to enjoy life again.

Sure, there's a lot to be thankful for, and sometimes the little things mean just as much as the big stuff does. I'm fortunate to have a wonderful husband, beautiful birds, and a great family nearby. I have a good home and job. I have amazing friends that are a joy to us. I've been blessed with many amazing things and seen a lot of beautiful places: The Grand Canyon, San Francisco, The Smoky Mountains, Charleston, SC, Savannah, GA, and Myrtle Beach, SC. I've had the excitement of publishing books and another one on the way soon. But for now, I'm just looking forward to the simple pleasures: to Rick and Ollie's continued healing, to handing out with Rick and the birds as often as we can, to watching Supernatural Tuesday and Arrow Wednesday, of getting back to my routine tomorrow, to finishing another read through of The Bible this week (I'm on the Book of Revelation and hope to finish it Thursday),  to the craft show with Mom on Friday, to having time with Rick next weekend to see a movie, or go to the gun show, or both, to getting back to church next Sunday ... just getting back to the simple joys of life.

That's all today. Take care, and have a good week.

Bye!